In this podcast, I wanted to share some viable “solutions” if you are a man with a small organ. I have seen many articles on the web on the subject, and the focus tends to be as follows: oh, so you have a smaller than average penis. Well, sorry bud, but here are some positions you can try.
The emphasis is on size, instead of going beyond to focus on what really matters, which is the beingness. In so saying, small, average or large, penis size is not going to save a relationship, nor are any other body parts, as testified by many marriages over millennia!
What really matters is the fit between two people :)
When it comes to the physical aspect of sex, here are some viable “solutions” (aka perspectives) that you may appreciate and find useful:
As you can see, there are a plethora of options available, and many of them do not focus on positions or size. If it really does bother you, then you can look into the route of surgery.
What matters is finding a partner that will be a good match for you beyond penis size.
I find many men are hung up on size because of lack of awareness, and because of the comparison to porn, yet the reality is that most do not look like that (a look online at other penis shapes, and also vaginal shapes, will offer illumination). The other thing is that porn is a movie, acted out, a show often based on fire and passion, as opposed to sacred lovemaking and connecting with the other.
Indeed, many sex therapists advocate not to focus on orgasm, but on being there with one another to create body awareness. Knowing how your body works, however, opens the door to exploring different forms of pleasure called orgasm. When I’ve asked men if they were aware of the different types of orgasm or if they could tease apart orgasm and ejaculation, the usual response is: what do you mean? Also, when I’ve spoken with some men who were delighted that their partner could have many orgasms, when asked what type of O it was, their answer was: I don’t know. Might be a good idea to find out :)
Educating yourself is important, but finding out what works for your body is essential. Maybe you are someone who can have nipple orgasms, testicle orgasms, brain Os or full body Os. Knowing that there are many different types of Os that your body can potentially have opens up the possibilities of what your body can experience. It opens up the door for exploration, and that also includes exploring how your partner’s body functions, as often women are unaware of what they like or what works for them.
Having that openness to explore and be there for the other is a KEY ingredient to ANY relationship, because first and foremost, it means having the respect, dignity, honor and integrity to be there for self.
Size, as you can see, is merely part of the world of form, for which the true being is limitless :)